Romantic comedies make men stupid. Picture your favorite rom-com. Guy meets girl, guy falls in love with girl, girl is either engaged, married, or just not interested. A normal, sane man would just accept this as a fact and move on, but a movie man won’t.
A movie man will go to great lengths for the girl to ditch her current love interest to be with him. He’ll play music really loud outside of her house early in the A.M. He’ll buy a nonrefundable plane ticket to catch her before her wedding to win her back with a song he wrote on the cab ride there. These men are creeps to the extreme and we root for them!
And they get the girl!
Films and TV shows like that have created a generation of men who just expect women to give into their perverted advances.
Women aren’t excluded from this either. Take Julia Robert’s character from My Best Friend’s Wedding. Her best friend, a man, was engaged and she does everything in her power to humiliate his fiance and ruin the wedding, and when that doesn’t work, she confesses her feelings the day before the wedding.
Hollywood has invented “the friend zone” where people pity themselves because the person they have feelings for only sees them as a friend. They actually get angry and degrade women for not being attracted to them. News flash, you are not entitled to anything from me and I am not stuck up for not wanting to hook up with a guy just because he’s been a good companion to me.
For most people, the point of friendship is to be friends, not to eventually get into someone’s pants – that is so messed up.
I’m sick of it. I don’t care what the situation is, if they are taken, or do not want you in any way, give up. Romantic films make zero sense in the reality of dating.
There is a scene in the Empire Strikes Back where Han Solo and Princess Leia have a moment, and he goes in to kiss her. She tells him three times to stop. Does he? No, he grabs her arm, which she said hurt, and he forced a kiss. They go on to have a long and loving relationship after that for some reason. If that were to happen today, in the real world, things would have ended very differently. Young people look up to these characters and consider everything they do to be golden, which isn’t the case in these so called classics. We may think we’ve improved over time, but we haven’t.
The fault in our Stars tells the same story, just sadder. Hazel Grace repeatedly tells Gus that he is just her friend, and he still continuously flirts with her, takes her on picnics, and to freaking Amsterdam! In the beginning, she is obviously uncomfortable with these advances, even if it all worked out in the end.
Do not under any circumstances take a person you’ve only known for a few months to a foreign country just to get laid! I should not have to say this.
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