Author: adviser

2017 brought a lot of Hollywood’s sexual predators to light, a good amount of previously respectable men lost their jobs. Women by the dozen each came forward with stories of sexually and physically assault that have been kept under wraps for decades. The #MeToo movement and the #TimesUp movement have helped many women feel supported enough to share their experiences in hopes of finally seeing justice be made. To show their own support for the movement, The Golden Globe Awards, on their 75th year, decided to set a dress code, all black attire. The dress code was meant to showcase solidarity for the women who have experienced physical and sexual assault or abuse. It was also done to promote racial and gender equality in show business.

Though their hearts and wardrobes were in the right place, not much can be gained from the color of someone’s $20,000 dress. Not much was said about these important issues during the event, other than Oprah’s uplifting that’s-why-we-love-her speech. Actors and actresses who have worked with well known creeps wore black even though they don’t care about the message behind it. Justin Timberlake and Emma Stone both wore black and spoke on how men in charge in Hollywood shouldn’t abuse their power. Pretty ironic considering they both starred in Wonder Wheel, which was directed by Woody Allen, a well known child molester, who still works and is very successful in film.

Stars didn’t wear black because they wanted to show their support, but because they were afraid of being otherwise shamed. If we really want to give women more freedom and power, we should stop talking and do it! There is this false sense of progress, when nothing is really changing. All we keep seeing are small, insignificant forms of protest being hyped up by people who could actually spark change but won’t. Women are still being criticized because of what they wear and perverted, abusive men are still very much in charge. Firing a few actors because of allegations isn’t the right way to go. The media claims they want change but will ignore doing anything constructive. These “protests” are an easy gimmick to allow the film industry to pat themselves on the back for being “so progressive”, when in reality nothing will change until we change what we watch. The industry has been like this forever. The first films Shirley Temple starred in are too disturbing to watch. A four-year-old girl playing a prostitute with a full grown man and nobody bats an eye. It’s more than just women speaking up, what’s the point when everyone hears but nobody is actually listening?

New Year, New Me. It’s 2018, this is my year. It’s about that time of year again. I can feel it all around. People are going to work out more next year!  Learn how to cook, be adventurous, put themselves out there more, find a boyfriend, find a girlfriend, have no more regrets, create memories, blah blah blah. “New year, new me.” It’s time to make a change, no more complaining, do something about it.

I’ve set goals for myself and I have a whole year ahead of me to do something about it. I spent last year doing a lot of soul searching. I was able to find myself and grow as a person. This year I’m committing to my resolutions. I don’t have a whole list of things to change because I find that having so much to resolve only results in accomplishing one or two. In 2018, I’m achieving my goal to be stronger and healthy, both mentally and physically. Start off small, then end the year with a BANG!

Three things to remember: First, accountability. In order to truly change and reach some of your New Year’s goals, you really need a partner. Someone that will give you a good slap when you cheat yourself. Someone that will make you accountable throughout your journey to achieving a goal. That can be a friend, family member, or your advisor. This person can be the one to remind you of your goals and motivate you to stick with it. Second, commitment. It’s going to require you stick with it all year. That means every day of the year. For example, if you’re planning on get fit and healthy this year, ease into going into the gym. Rather than going for 4 days in a row then wearing yourself out where you get unmotivated and lazy. You’ll have to decide what you want and what you want to give up to get it. It will be worth it, just like losing twenty pounds. Finally, habits. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results. You cannot expect to make progress if you’re doing things the same way you did last year. Think about it, are you still in the same position? It’s probably because you haven’t broken those bad habits.

This is our time to grow. 2018 will be filled with positivity and happiness. To achieve this we are breaking habits and sticking to our agenda, which is reaching these goals. Set daily reminders! Get organized. Make this year yours!